I'm feeling trapped...

Why can't I get it right? I'm working my ass off but I can't seem to get my money under control. My hubby has moved up here w/ me & took a significant pay cut to do so, but I work enough to make up the financial difference. I know what the problem is... I don't want to curtail my spending. I got used being able to spend as much money as I wanted & not worry about it b/c I had an overflow of funds. I miss the money but not the exhaustion that went w/ the 85 hr. workweek. I'm kinda back to that but I have taken some time off from the restaurant & I NEED THAT CASH!!!! I'm trying to find balance in my life & I can't seem to disclipline myself to do so. I can whine about this all nite but really I need to focus my energies & that's getting out of debt. I don't have to buy my lunch everyday. I can go to the damn grocery store. It's just a matter of convenience to go out to eat----I'm a lazy, spoiled fuck. Not to say I will deprive myself of all worldly luxuries (I will get a mani-pedi every once in awhile) but I need to learn balance!!!! I can't get discouraged everytime I have an overdraft, I CAN DO IT!!!!